tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post6437451729976009778..comments2023-10-29T01:23:25.535-07:00Comments on Beth Kephart Books: on female friendshipsBeth Kepharthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14236487532413398431noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-40066269412550220692012-01-04T16:29:06.948-08:002012-01-04T16:29:06.948-08:00Maybe it has to do with the basis of friendship. B...Maybe it has to do with the basis of friendship. Boys and later men tend to be active together, to play sports or video games or something else that is the focus, not each other. Girls talk, they share. It's a much fuzzier way to be friends, and so more fraught. You can punch each other out if you're boys and then go back to the video game or watching (or playing) hockey. Girls usually are deterred from punching each other out, leaving words, direct (also discouraged as not nice) or indirect to vent. That's why sometimes I just tell one kid to punch the other kid back even though they are both girls and both my daughters. It seems to clear the air more simply.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-39424594002916358112012-01-03T05:26:37.103-08:002012-01-03T05:26:37.103-08:00I hate to disappoint you, Kelly, but I'm a Bod...I hate to disappoint you, Kelly, but I'm a Body Combat girl. You're a mere dancer. :)Beth Kepharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14236487532413398431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-31707445220412830482012-01-03T05:11:25.576-08:002012-01-03T05:11:25.576-08:00He's awfully smart for one so young. And by th...He's awfully smart for one so young. And by the way, if we ever get into a fisticuffs, remember that I seriously outweigh you. (Just wanted to use the word fisticuffs.)Kelly Simmonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12000890535930589183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-63121054776852255862012-01-03T03:10:51.033-08:002012-01-03T03:10:51.033-08:00I thank you all for your interesting and thoughtfu...I thank you all for your interesting and thoughtful responses (and Melissa, for making me laugh). This is, of course, a generalization. But there are so many things to think about.Beth Kepharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14236487532413398431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-68278557381464088592012-01-02T19:26:01.003-08:002012-01-02T19:26:01.003-08:00I think it depends on who I'm dealing with, fr...I think it depends on who I'm dealing with, friend-wise. Some can't deal with directness. I lost a good friend who couldn't handle my being honest. And I also think women may value their relationships more, and are sometimes overly sensitive about hurting feelings.CarolWeishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070606276175218670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-569634426793629232012-01-02T18:39:17.899-08:002012-01-02T18:39:17.899-08:00We're mysterious. I can't figure us out. W...We're mysterious. I can't figure us out. With no disrespect to the fine, fine girls and women I know and love, it is wonderful to be the mother of two boys. I'm sure if I'd have girls, I would have learned how to parent, but at this point in my life, even after teaching for seven years, girls are still complex in my mind.<br /><br />Part of it, I think, is we as women are just as concerned with what is unsaid/implied as what is said. What we think is being said isn't always the same as what is truly being spoken...<br /><br />Fodder for a future story, maybe?Caroline Starr Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04597510685273079757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-12306576452201661632012-01-02T18:30:08.020-08:002012-01-02T18:30:08.020-08:00LOL Melissa!!! I see your point - I don't thin...LOL Melissa!!! I see your point - I don't think I could have a physical fight with another woman and wake up saying "Oh, that? That was no big deal." Men are definitely in their own category on that one!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14332796775305098552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-64405022337797548592012-01-02T17:56:05.248-08:002012-01-02T17:56:05.248-08:00This is fascinating. But I just tried to imagine a...This is fascinating. But I just tried to imagine a girlfriend clocking me in the head. I'm not sure I could wake up fine with that the next day! :)Melissa Sarnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11215683401795724259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-56679880134313208012012-01-02T17:14:07.341-08:002012-01-02T17:14:07.341-08:00Right there with you, Wendy!!Right there with you, Wendy!!Beth Kepharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14236487532413398431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-70956097417030302802012-01-02T17:13:22.909-08:002012-01-02T17:13:22.909-08:00Well, this is a very interesting post and one I th...Well, this is a very interesting post and one I think that is, unfortunately, accurate for the most part. I tend to be a pretty direct person. I don't like silence when things are clearly not okay, and yet, sometimes it is hard to crack through those misunderstandings. I think many women hold grudges when their feelings are hurt or they feel betrayed or misunderstood. Most men, it seems, do not waste their time worrying about the past. Their friendships seem more honest that way. That said, I do have some very dear friends who, like me, believe in clearing the air and putting things in the past which should remain in the past. I think it is healthier that way. I wish more women agreed!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14332796775305098552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-85585045856992824192012-01-02T17:11:20.821-08:002012-01-02T17:11:20.821-08:00I have been wondering that a lot lately.I have been wondering that a lot lately.Literary Felinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13079276242303738719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3017619759232312084.post-83316107417868219992012-01-02T17:01:08.700-08:002012-01-02T17:01:08.700-08:00I think your son is definitely on to something. M...I think your son is definitely on to something. Men can move on but women sometimes struggle with letting go. I wish I knew why.bermudaonionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10726401178972099557noreply@blogger.com