Monday, July 20, 2015
It has given me great pleasure to give. But this summer, working with my father on sifting through the innumerable possessions of a long-loved family home, I have begun to think differently about things. I have begun to capitalize the word. And I have thought about all the Things I've bought for so many people throughout the years. Where are those Things now? Did they become, after the initial glimmer, trouble? Something to put away. Something to store. Something to work around. Something to consume—space.
Yesterday, celebrating our son's birthday in NYC, I do what I always do when I arrive (can't help myself)—I cleaned. Not because he doesn't do that himself—he does, of course. But because it is part of my mom genetics. As I worked my way through this studio basement apartment, I saw the too-many shirts I have bought him in the past, the too-many shorts he would now not ever wear, the too many.
I've loved and I've given, but—what of all this too much, too many?
We show our love in many ways. By being there, by listening. I want to find more ways, going forward, to show my love by giving only that which is absolutely needed, or to give something I have made, or to make it possible for someone to experience something they might not otherwise experience. A considered meal. A show. A day in a museum. A trip to see a friend. A trip simply to see. A clean space. An open window.
I'm sure I'll falter along the way. But I want to get better at this.
Less stuff. More experience. For their sake.